Xiao Ming entered the class room with the paintings, and saw the paintings of his classmates hanging on the wall newspaper. After looking at them, he said: The paintings are so sour! The parents were very embarrassed and apologized to the teacher repeatedly, and accused Xiao Ming of being rude. What Xiao Ming said was indeed rude, but did you hear the meaning behind what he said? In fact, he was worried about whether his paintings could be posted, and worried that his paintings were not good enough to be posted like his classmates. The teacher responded gently:
Xiao Ming, your whatsapp database paintings are very attentive, do you like to post them here? It is easy to measure the meaning behind children's words or actions by adult standards, and conclude that they are rude, disrespectful, and have behavioral problems. The next dialogue everyone has estimated... "Boy! Don't do it like that. Apologize to your classmates... This world doesn't depend on you, you are so polite, do you know how to be respectful..." Usually it's a lengthy lesson. .
Compare your heart to yourself, if you still have the impression that what you were most afraid of when you were a child was not the big truth that the instructor could not finish? It's true that what they said were all good words, but I'm afraid you also "can't make up for it". When emotions occupy a child's heart, even if you say that his heart is good, it will not be heard. If you can't guess the emotional code behind Xiaoming's story above, or you want to find some ways to deal with it. Haim G. Ginott's book, Childhood Troubles, I believe can give you a little inspiration. 1) Understand first, then advise and teach At the beginning, it is not easy to see the feelings behind the children.